From Self-Neglect to Self-Compassion

This might be one of the most important books you’ll read as a seasoned professional. Hayley’s book might not be for those just starting out in a career; that’s when we’re full of vim and vigor.  Yet when we are so busy we start putting others first, neglecting ourselves, prepping the ground for burnt out.  I’m grateful Hayley has been so revealing with us about how to transform those patterns to flourish.

Reading From Self-Neglect to Self-Compassion felt like being gently held by someone who understands the very particular ache of women who’ve spent years giving more than they had to give.

Dr Hayley Quinn writes with such clarity, kindness and truth. This isn’t another self-help book that tells you to ‘do more’ — it’s a guide that shows you how to finally be with yourself in a way that’s nourishing, sustainable and real.

As a neurodivergent woman, mother, and business leader, I genuinely recognised myself on almost every page. Hayley’s blend of lived experience and professional wisdom makes this a life-changing read for anyone who’s ever felt guilty for needing rest, or who is unsure how to show up for themselves without letting others down.

I finished this book feeling seen, steadied, and reminded that compassion — not perfection — is the most powerful leadership tool we have.

Dr Hayley D. Quinn’s From Self-Neglect to Self-Compassion is a refreshingly real, intelligent, and deeply human guide for change. Grounded in psychology and self-efficacy, Hayley offers practical, compassionate tools that empower readers, particularly neurodivergent women, to create lives that feel authentic and sustainable. She writes without fluff or false promises, blending insight with humility, warmth, and gentle humour. This book dismantles self-criticism and perfectionism with evidence-based compassion and genuine care. Hayley reminds us that change begins with honesty, courage, and the willingness to choose ourselves, one small act at a time.

Reading Dr Hayley Quinn’s beautiful, practical and thought-provoking work, From Self-Neglect to Self-Compassion, feels like talking to a wise and caring friend. A friend who understands the exhaustion of constantly saying “yes” to everyone except yourself. A friend who gently guides you back to what matters.

One of the book’s greatest strengths is how it translates complex psychological theory into vivid, relatable insights. Dr Hayley’s writing style mirrors her message. It is intelligent, wise, and deeply caring. Step by step, she leads us through how to understand and cultivate compassion in our lives, so that we can thrive, and those around us can too.

From Self-Neglect to Self-Compassion reads like a love letter to those of us who have forgotten that our needs matter. It’s a book to linger over, to return to when the world grows loud, and to share with others who are ready to make changes too. Dr Hayley reminds us throughout, “Go gently with yourself,” and she helps us to do just that.

Right now, in a society that demands that we constantly prove our worth, choosing gentleness and compassion might be the bravest thing we can do.

Reading Dr Hayley’s book is like a warm hug from a friend. Her ability to condense big concepts into bite sized actionable steps is extraordinary. This book is essential reading for anyone who has struggled to befriend their mind.

I absolutely loved this book. The way it weaves together lived experience and professional wisdom feels so genuine and deeply human. It creates a beautiful, accessible pathway to self-care that celebrates diversity in every sense and reminds us that there’s no one “right” way to move towards healing. Each activity gently guides you back to yourself, inviting reflection and kindness without a trace of judgement. It’s thoughtful, compassionate, and quietly powerful.

This isn’t a book, it’s the warmest of hugs. After only a few chapters, you would not be at all surprised to look up and find yourself on the comfiest couch, with a cuppa that you didn’t make, in your favourite mug. By your side, is the kind of friend who listens, but also tells you what you need to hear (in the gentlest, judgment-free way). Hayley allows you to be yourself but also to see yourself clearly, both now and the self that is still to come. She helps us to recognise the ways that, in seeking to help others, we often harm our most precious resource: ourselves. Instead, we are guided to develop our self-awareness and with that, our capacity to show compassion to ourselves.

Neurodiversity is mentioned throughout the book, reminding us that all brains can be tricky, while encouraging us to reflect on what it is that constitutes self-compassion for our unique minds.

Do you have that one friend who doesn’t let you get away with saying, ‘I’m fine’? The one who gently sits you down with a cup of tea and says, ‘I really want to know all about you’?

That’s what this beautiful and deeply knowledgeable book from Dr. Hayley Quinn feels like, as her expert voice invites you to trade the exhaustion of self-neglect for the quiet power of self-compassion. This book is a gentle but direct path to understanding why you’ve been putting yourself last and how to finally and lovingly become your own dearest friend.

This deeply empathetic guide is a must-read that has earned a spot at the top of my recommended resources – I know so many of the clients I serve will find solace in Dr Quinn’s warm guidance as they rest, heal, and begin to thrive.

If you are a woman who is hard on herself, always puts others first, and wants more out of life, this book is for you. Dr Quinn offers wise and gentle guidance for living life with greater purpose and self-compassion, while teaching readers to rest, set boundaries, and recharge. I highly recommend this book for any woman with a loud inner critic, teetering on the edge of burnout.

From Self-Neglect to Self-Compassion is the roadmap so many ambitious people are missing, one that bridges achievement with genuine wellbeing.

Dr Hayley D Quinn offers a gentle yet powerful guide for anyone who has spent too long putting their own needs last, blending structure, evidence and compassion in a way that fits real life. What stands out most is the tone. You feel seen, not judged. Grounded in science and personal insight, Dr Hayley shows that self-compassion is not indulgent or innate, but a skill that can be trained, practised and strengthened over time.

This is a warm, wise and practical companion for anyone ready to move from survival to a more aligned and sustainable way of living. You will grow as a result of this book!

From Self-Neglect to Self- Compassion takes you on a journey of self-discovery and self-reflection. Hayley is passionate about burnout prevention and courageously and honestly offers insights into her own personal journey. This book is a valuable resource for individuals seeking to realign with their core values and enhance their overall wellbeing. Through engaging exercises and reflective prompts, this guide empowers you to cultivate self-compassion, whilst also enhancing compassion for others.