Welcome to Self ® with Dr Hayley D Quinn

Welcome to Self ® is a place where you can learn about the practices that assist us as humans, realise that you’re not alone in the ways you struggle, and have your curiosity piqued on various topics as I chat with wonderful guests or bring you solo episodes. 

 

This is a place to remember that you are human first and have different roles in your life that need your attention. For that, you need to take care of yourself in the best way you can. 

 

I’m your host, Dr Hayley D Quinn. I’m a Fellow human, AuDHDer, business owner, anti-burnout business coach, and clinical psychologist. I’m here for service-based business owners and entrepreneurs like you to help you increase your self-care and self-compassion, change your relationship with yourself and your business, and elevate your business to a new level so you can live the full and meaningful life you desire.

 

My aim is that this is a place of nourishment, growth, and nurture, a place where you can welcome Your Self.

 

I hope you enjoy the episodes, and if there is something in them that you find helpful, I invite you to share it with another person you think might benefit. 

 

I’d also love it if you would like to leave a 5-star rating and review wherever you tune in. Reviews really help to increase awareness of podcasts, meaning I can spread helpful information more widely. 

 

All reviews are welcome and much appreciated as I know they take time out of your day. If you’d like to be notified when the next episode airs, please use the link in the show notes to join my mailing list.

 

I wish you all well in your relationship with yourself and your business, and may you go well and go gently.

Grab your favourite cuppa, slow down, tune in and enjoy

Episode #68 How to Thrive in a Digitally Demanding World with Dr Kristy Goodwin

Imagine a health scare so severe it leaves you gasping for air. This was Dr. Kristy Goodwin’s reality – and it could be the gentle wake-up call we all need.

She’s an award-winning digital well-being expert who learned the hard way about sustainable work habits. She shares her powerful journey from health crisis to breakthrough insights.

Episode #67 Why You Should Start Now, Even if It’s Not Perfect

In this episode, we explore the common pitfalls of striving for perfection and the transformative benefits of taking action, even if it’s not perfect. Join me as I share personal stories and practical advice on overcoming self-doubt, embracing imperfection, and taking the steps needed to achieve your goals.

Discover how letting go of perfectionism can unlock your true potential and lead to a more fulfilling and productive life.

Episode #66 Is Your Work Worth It? with Jennifer Tosti-Kharas

Episode #66 Is Your Work Worth It? with Jennifer Tosti-Kharas

Is your work truly fulfilling? Join us as we chat with Jennifer Tosti-Kharas about finding meaning in work. We’ll explore what makes a career fulfilling, the ups and downs of loving your job, and how work fits into a happy life. Perfect for anyone wondering about their career path!

Episode #65 Don’t Underestimate the Cognitive Load

This episode explores the often overlooked cognitive burden that women in business carry.

From managing teams and clients to parenting and household duties, it’s easy to feel like you’re constantly juggling. We’ll discuss how to prioritize effectively by identifying tasks that can be delegated, deleted, or delayed, ultimately creating space for yourself by letting go of over-responsibility and making time for what truly matters.

Episode #64 Five Pillars of Sustainable Success with Jessica Spendlove

Episode #64 Five Pillars of Sustainable Success with Jessica Spendlove

We all know how challenging it can be to juggling success with our well-being, especially in our fast-paced world. Today, we’re chatting with Jessica Spendlove, she transformed her passion for nutrition and performance into a mission of care for business owners, leaders, and executives. Jessica’s approach is all about nurturing sustainable high performance using science-backed strategies that honour our needs for good nutrition, restful sleep, joyful movement, a positive mindset, and restorative recovery. Jessica and I share a deep commitment to helping people thrive, both in business and in life. I’m so grateful to have her here today to share her wisdom with you all.

Episode #63 Aligned Choices Isn’t Always Easy

Have you ever worked really hard for something, only to realize it wasn’t quite right for you? In this episode, I’m opening up about this – the excitement, the doubt, and the tears. I want to talk about how sometimes, the bravest thing we can do is listen to our hearts, even when it’s scary. If you’ve ever struggled with a tough decision or felt unsure about your path, this episode is for you.

Episode #61 Building a Sustainable Business Starts with You

This season opener dives deep into the secret of building a sustainable and thriving business (and life!): self-knowledge.

We explore how understanding your values, beliefs, and thinking patterns empowers you to make decisions aligned with what truly matters to YOU.

Episode #60 Farewell to Season 5 – The Power of No

“Yes” can be a trap! This bite size episode explores why “no” is your secret weapon.

Learn how saying “no” to others can mean “yes” to yourself (less burnout, more you!), plus discover the art of the flexible “no” (“not now)

Episode #59 Nurturing Your Relationships Whilst Running Your Business with Dr. Yael Schonbrun

Feeling the squeeze of business on your personal life?In this episode, we delve into the impact business ownership has on our relationships. Dr. Schonbrun, who juggles her own business with parenthood, offers valuable insights on the struggles many entrepreneurs face. Dr. Schonbrun’s wisdom and compassion make this episode a must-listen for busy entrepreneurs seeking balance and thriving relationships!

Episode #58 Discovering Your Why

This week’s episode is here to give you a gentle nudge! We’ll be talking about the power of remembering why you started your business in the first place. Because let’s be honest, running a business can be tough. There will be days that feel overwhelming, and showing up might feel like a chore.But when you reconnect with your why, that spark that ignited your passion – those tough days become a little easier.

Episode #57 Let’s Talk About Spending with Emma Edwards

This week’s episode welcomes Emma Edwards, a financial educator, podcaster, and author of “Good With Money.” Emma is passionate about helping people build a healthy relationship with money and break free from unhelpful spending habits. Don’t miss this episode if you’re ready to take control of your finances and build a brighter future!

Episode #56 How to Chart a Course That Suits You

Is your business journey feeling a little unsteady lately? Perhaps you set sail with a clear vision, but now the waves of uncertainty seem to be tossing you about. I understand – building a business can feel overwhelming at times.This episode offers a gentle hand to help you regain your bearings. We’ll explore strategies that foster compassion and clarity, empowering you to navigate with confidence.

Episode #54 When Going Slow Wins The Race

This week’s episode is about ditching the pressure and embracing a slower, steadier approach. Join me as we explore the power of pacing and building sustainable habits for a truly fulfilling journey.

Episode #53 SEO Success and Website Wobbles with Kate Toon

Join us for a fun chat with award-winning coach Kate Toon. We (two Brits Down Under!) discuss SEO, websites, writing, self-care & staying true to yourself. Plus, Kate shares actionable tips to help you crush your business goals! Don’t miss this episode!

Episode #52 Lessons Learned In Business And Life

Life throws curveballs, but it’s how we respond that shapes our experiences.
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In this episode, I share insights on embracing flexibility in the face of unexpected challenges, setting healthy boundaries for yourself and others, resilience and growth in the face of setbacks. I hope you find this episode helpful and it offers some wisdom and guidance on your own journey.

Episode #51 The Power of Language with Anita Siek

Join me in today’s episode as I welcome Anita Siek, CEO of Wordfetti, to discuss the transformative power of words in business and life. Discover Anita’s journey from corporate lawyer to brand strategist and copywriter, and learn how she helps brands make a meaningful impact through human-centered storytelling. Together we share insights into crafting compelling messaging, overcoming career challenges, and embracing authenticity in entrepreneurship.

Episode #50 The Importance of Acknowledgment and Celebration

Episode 50 is a celebration of reflection and achievement.  Join me and together we can slow down, acknowledge our triumphs, and gain valuable insights for the journey ahead. Let’s challenge the narratives that hold us back and embrace the joy of recogniing our wins.

Episode #49 Planning on Purpose

The transition between years is always a time for me when I slow down, tune in and ask myself some reflective questions. A time to reflect and also bring my thoughts to the time ahead. A time for planning and setting up the year so it is nurturing, nourishing, sustainable and exciting too! Join me in this first episode of Season 5 for a discussion of the opportunities for reflection that come with the beginning of a new year.

Episode #48 Farewell to Season Four: Reflecting on Values and Goals

Join me in our season finale as we dive into the importance of reflecting on your goals and celebrating your achievements. Whether you’ve met your goals or not, taking time for celebration can be a motivating force. Discover the difference between goals and values, and how values can guide your life and business decisions. Join me in wrapping up the year with clarity and inspiration, and get ready to start anew in 2024. Rest, restore, and have fun during the break, and I’ll see you back in podcast land soon!

Episode #47 Getting Out of Your Own Way with Dr Hayley Kelly

Join me in this thought-provoking episode with wonderful guest Dr Hayley Kelly as we explore the art of taking a leap of faith, trusting your intuition, and embracing change. Discover the power of judgment as a measure of impact, the significance of separating your identity from your business, and the key to overcoming self-imposed obstacles. We also explore the invaluable role of diverse community mentors in shaping your entrepreneurial journey.

Episode #46 Where is Your Attention

Join me as I share a personal experience from a recent getaway in the NSW bush, where I made a conscious choice to disconnect from the digital world. It made me realise how our attention tends to be drawn to the enjoyable aspects of life, however, we often forget to pay attention to other crucial areas. What areas are getting your attention, and which ones might need a little more focus? Let’s explore the delicate balance between what’s pleasant and what requires our attention.

Episode #45 If Only… Finding Freedom From Regret with Dr Robert L Leahy

Hi and welcome to another episode and another great guest. Today I am joined by Dr Robert L. Leahy. Dr Leahy completed a Postdoctoral Fellowship in the Department of Psychiatry, at the University of Pennsylvania Medical School under the direction of Dr. Aaron Beck, the founder of cognitive therapy.
As well as being an editor on journals, serving on scientific advisory committees and being a frequent keynote speaker throughout the world, Dr Leahy is author and editor of 29 books, including his latest book If Only.. Finding Freedom From Regret and The Worry Cure which received critical praise from the New York Times and has been selected by Self Magazine as one of the top eight self-help books of all time.

It’s safe to say, he knows his stuff and on top of all these accomplishments, he’s a really lovely person and it’s my absolute pleasure to welcome Dr Robert L Leahy to the podcast.

Episode #44 Start Where You Are At

Welcome back for another episode! This week I’ve got a new Bite Size Business episode, where I share some quick and valuable tips to support you and your business.
This episode I’m discussing a common issue: comparisonitis. I have a look into how society’s constant marketing bombardment can leave us feeling inadequate and pressured to conform. Join me as I discuss the importance of starting your business journey from where you are, and not where others are.
I share practical insights on self-reflection, skill assessment, task delegation, and aligning your business with your values.
Plus, gain valuable prompts to assess your business, mindset and goals.
This bite-sized episode offers actionable wisdom for business owners, so go ahead and press play 💜

Episode #43 Imposter No More with Dr Jill Stoddard

Welcome to another episode and another great guest.My guest today is Dr Jill Stoddard, an experienced psychologist, writer, TEDx speaker, award-winning teacher, peer-reviewed ACT trainer, and co-host of the popular Psychologists Off the Clock podcast. She is passionate about sharing science-backed ideas from psychology to help people thrive.

Dr Stoddard is the author of three books: The Big Book of ACT Metaphors: A Practitioner’s Guide to Experiential Exercises and Metaphors in Acceptance and Commitment Therapy; Be Mighty: A Woman’s Guide to Liberation from Anxiety, Worry, and Stress Using Mindfulness and; and Imposter No More: Overcome Self-doubt and Imposterism to Cultivate a Successful Career. Her writing has also appeared in Psychology Today, Scary Mommy, Thrive Global, The Good Men Project, and Mindful Return. She regularly appears on podcasts and as an expert source for various media outlets. She lives in Newburyport, Massachussets with her husband, two kids, and disobedient French Bulldog. 

I have followed her over the past few years through her podcast Psychologists Off The Clock, a great podcast that is well worth a listen, and we then connected over social media. It’s been really lovely to meet her in person and it is my absolute pleasure to welcome Dr Jill Stoddard to the podcast.

Episode #42 Threat Based Drive and Why It’s So Important to Recognise It

In this episode, I delve into the fascinating world of Compassion Focused Therapy and explore the three-circle model of emotional regulation. Join me and discover how our threat, drive, and soothing systems influence our decision-making and emotions. I discuss the tools to managing threat-based drive and making wiser, value-driven choices for your business and life. Dive into the profound insights that can transform your approach to thriving in both your personal and professional spheres.

Episode #41 Systems That Can Assist With Overwhelm with Donna Gilmour

Welcome back to another episode of Welcome To Self, today I am so excited to introduce you to my friend Donna Gilmour.

As well as numbers and all things organisational, Donna is passionate about the psychological, physical and energetic impact of clutter on one’s mind in all areas of life, from work, to family, but is particularly interested in how this affects working environments.

Utilising cloud technology, apps and tools, she frames her core services from the business owner’s perspective with a key focus on streamlining and efficiencies to ensure her clients business thrives.

Donna is in touch with business operations at the grassroots level and brings 30 years experience and the latest technological solutions to streamline and simplify financial and administrative processes that save time and reduce costs.

I just know you’re going to get a lot out of this episode, so grab yourself a cuppa and a way to take notes and enjoy the episode. It is my absolute pleasure to invite my dear friend on to the podcast.

Episode #40 Bite Size Business

This episode marks the return to fortnightly podcasts after shifting to monthly, and introduces Bite Size Business episodes. These episodes designed to be short, easily digestible and packed with valuable insights and tips to enhance sustainable business engagement. Join me in today’s episode to discuss the connection between breath and well-being, and take part in a simple breathing exercise.

Episode #39 Caring for Yourself and Others with Compassionate Curiosity with Rebecca Weiner

Rebecca A. Weiner is a dynamic educator, life-long learner, and creator of Learn Play Grow Educational Consulting. She supports transformational growth for young children with diverse abilities and their families, teachers, and schools through play-based learning, parent and teacher coaching, strengths-based consulting in schools, and neurodiversity-affirming support for inclusion in early childhood programs. Rebecca is on a mission to reimagine education so that learners, teachers, families, and school leaders of ALL abilities have access, representation, support, and true belonging. Rebecca absolutely embodies compassion for others and for herself and is one of the worlds beautiful humans, I am sure you will gain a lot from this episode where we talk about starting and building a business whilst navigating life as a human being.

Episode #38 The Secret Thoughts of Successful Women with Dr Valerie Young

Dr. Valerie Young is widely regarded as the thought leader on impostor syndrome, and co-founder of Impostor Syndrome Institute, with the mission of stamping out impostor syndrome. She has shared her insightful and practical advice, with over half a million people around the world. Her award winning book is The Secret Thoughts of Successful Women, (and men), Why Capable People Suffer From Imposter Syndrome and How To Thrive in Spite of it. Today I chat with Valerie about Impostor Syndrome, what is it and how can we manage if we experience it.

Episode #37 When You’re Part of the Problem and the Solution

Running a business and being a human with a tricky mind does have its challenges. We also need to consider our own social, emotional and intellectual learning histories and the experiences we’ve had across our lifetimes, the challenges we’ve had, the beliefs we’ve developed about ourselves, about others, and about how the world operates. I also think it’s important that we acknowledge that we may be part of any problem we are experiencing. Now stick with me, I’m not saying this so you can go and berate yourself, but I do want you to be honest with yourself about any part you might play in the business struggles you might be having. I also want you to know that you can be part of the solution as well.

Episode #36 Navigating Co-Parenting with Tiffany Rochester

I’ve been excited to bring you some more great guests this season and my next guest is no exception. She is a warm, kind, compassionate, and very wise woman who I’m honoured to call not just my colleague, but my friend. I first met my next guest at an ANZ ACBS conference in Canberra, and attended a workshop for women that she was co-hosting. I was extremely resistant to attending this particular workshop due to some of my own history, but I knew that’s what I needed to do and believe me, I’m so thrilled that I did. I learned about myself, my connection with other women, and I’m happy to say the seeds of a beautiful friendship were planted. I’m thrilled to introduce to you Tiffany Rochester. Tiff is fierce about nurturing families and supporting parents so that children can grow up slowly in the warmth and safety of both parents. She has a long history of supporting families through complex situations, including working with families of juvenile offenders, families raising neurodivergent, sexual and gender minorities, and families post separation fostering one family across two homes. She is the founding CEO of Co-Parenting Companion, a business which provides coaching support to separated co-parents with a focus on helping parents establish healthy boundaries and clear communication to find collaborative solutions.

Episode #35 Vulnerability as our Strength with Rikke Kjelgaard

My next guest was such a delight to interview, and we both really enjoyed the interaction which I think you’ll hear throughout the interview. We talk about living authentically in line with values, vulnerability as strength, accepting support from others during challenging times and being cheerleaders for ourselves and others. It is my pleasure to introduce Rikke Kjelgaard. Rikke is a licensed psychologist, peer-reviewed ACT trainer, an awarded fellow of the ACBS, speaker and chief rock’n’roller in her own business. Rikke is on a mission to help therapists thrive and to be brave and authentic helpers. Trained as a clinical psychologist, she has a 15-year background in the science of human behaviour and the practice of behaviour change. Rikke is a popular speaker at the Scandinavian as well as international stage, and she is known to bring both passion and vulnerability to her talks. She transforms the lives of her audience by bringing evidence-based strategies to her listeners in ways that are palatable, manageable and impactful. Rikke is known to leave her audience in tears with compelling stories from her own life and to create extraordinary interactions between people. We may both have had a few tears during this interview. I am sure you’re going to love listening to Rikke as we chat together, and I think you’ll find lots to take away from this episode as well. Sit back and enjoy.

Episode #34 Growth & Evolution: When You Know It’s Time To Change

I’m excited to bring you this bonus episode with an update about the podcast. You may have noticed a slight change to the introduction compared to past episodes. I recently made the decision to change the name of the podcast from Welcome to Self®- Caring for the Human in the Therapist Chair to Welcome to Self® with Dr Hayley D Quinn.

Why have I done this you might ask?

Well one of the reasons is I never thought I’d reach so many wonderful humans and I’ve had people reach out to me who are not therapists but who are enjoying the podcast and finding it really helpful, and I want to make this information more accessible, so changing from focusing on therapists feels important.

Episode #33 Work Parent Thrive with Dr Yael Schonbrun

It’s exciting to be back with season four, and this time with a guest interview are so excited when my next guest enthusiastically agreed to come on the podcast. I’ve been a fan of hers through the podcast she co-hosts and now her new book. So it means a lot that she’s joining me today. And I’m sure you’re going to get a lot from this episode. In this episode, we will be talking a lot about working parenthood. And I’m aware that not all of you are parents. And some of you may have reasons to choose not to listen into this episode. If that is the case, I hope you’ll tune in again for our next episode. I also think there’s plenty to learn from this episode if you’re not currently parenting. So if it feels right for you, please tune in. And I hope you enjoy the episode and find it helpful. It is my absolute pleasure to introduce Dr Yael Schonbrun. Yael is a psychologist and assistant professor at Brown University, co-host of the wonderful podcast Psychologists Off The Clock and author of Work Parent Thrive. Having chatted to Yael briefly online, recording this episode was the first time we met face to face. And oh my what a beautiful human she is. Her kindness and compassion shines through as she talks. And I thoroughly enjoyed our time together. I hope you enjoyed this episode as much as I have. And I’m sure you’ll find lots of great wisdom in here too.

Episode #32 Heading in to a New Year

Hi and Welcome back. I hope you managed to have some rest, some fun, some peace, and some time with the people in your life that you feel comfortable and safe with.

Episode #30 Compassion and Chairwork with Dr Tobyn Bell

My next guest, Dr. Tobyn Bell is a Compassion Focused Therapy Trainer, Supervisor and Psychotherapist. His is also an accredited Schema Therapist and Cognitive Behavioural Psychotherapist. He is a co-founder of Chairwork UK and a co-author of the book ‘Compassion Focused Therapy from the Inside Out: A Self-practice/Self-reflection Workbook for Therapists’. Tobyn regularly provides national and international training on compassion and chairwork and is actively involved in ongoing research within these areas. He currently works as a lecturer and operational lead at the University of Manchester, very close to where I grew up.

Episode #29 Boundaries for Work

This episode is about boundaries, boundaries are containing for everyone, boundaries assist us all to feel safe and boundaries can be such important part of maintaining a sustainable practice. Something I am passionate about when working with other helping professionals.

Episode #28 Managing Expectations of Ourselves as Busy Helping Professionals

My next guest is the wonderful, Michaela Thomas. Michaela is a Clinical Psychologist, Couples Therapist and author of the book The Lasting Connection – on developing compassion for yourself and your partner.

Michaela specialises in perfectionism, helping stressed busy people find balance over burnout to follow their ambition without drowning in it. She currently runs a group coaching programme for ambitious women called Burn Bright.

It is my pleasure to welcome Michaela on to the podcast and I hope you enjoy this episode and find it helpful.

Episode #26 Burnout and Recovery with Dr Rebecca Ray

I’m thrilled to introduce my next guest, a fellow psychologist and businesswoman I’ve had the pleasure of working with Dr Rebecca Ray. Beck is a clinical psychologist, author and speaker. Over the course of almost two decades of practice, Beck has helped thousands of big-picture-thinking people, through courses, consultations, and transformative content live a life that’s fulfilling, unapologetic, and free. Whilst her technique is science-backed, her approach sees her deliver both hard and heart truths within an ethos of self-kindness first, always. Beck’s unique expertise sets her apart as one of Australia’s most in-demand and authoritative voices in the personal development space. Beck is an author of five books, including Be Happy, The Art of Self-Kindness, The Universe Listens to Brave, Setting Boundaries, and Small Habits for a Big Life. She lives in the soul-fed hills of the Sunshine Coast, one of my favourite places in the world, with the great loves of her life: her wife Nyssa, son Bennett, two rescue Irish Setters and one gangly Weimaraner. I’m sure you’ll get a lot from this episode and enjoy it as much as I did. It’s my pleasure to introduce Beck to Welcome to Self.

Episode #25 Compassionate Mind Training

I’m so excited to introduce today’s guest, Dr. Chris Irons. Chris is a clinical psychologist, researcher, writer and trainer, specialising in compassion focused therapy. Today we talk all about compassion and compassionate mind training.

Episode #24 The highs and lows of private practice

On today’s episode I am lucky enough to sit down with Sarah Rees and have a fabulous chat about how she fell into the helping profession and her journey from there until now. As well as how she uses CFT in her personal life to improve her professional work.

Episode #23 Get to Know Yourself

I’m back for season 3! On today’s episode I chat about getting to know yourself and the ways in which we can do this. Knowing your limits and setting healthy boundaries.

Episode #22 It’s Time for a Break

The final episode of season 2. Today I briefly reflect back on season 2 and the wonderful guests I had on the podcast. I also talk about how I take breaks throughout the year to avoid burnout and the importance of rethinking routines as we come out the other end of COVID. Finally, I touch on the CFT for Trauma training that I will be presenting in Queensland later this year and give all the details.

Episode #21 Cultivating Kindness with Dr. Elaine Beaumont

In this week’s episode I got to sit down and have a lovely chat with Dr. Elaine Beaumont about how important it is to be kind to yourself and the ways we can do this as well as diving into the books she has written and how they came about. Elaine also gives us insight into how she made the Self Compassion app.

Episode #20 When the Session is Tricky

Today’s episode is all about what we can do when we feel like a session has gone astray and we feel out of our depth. I share some of the things I find helpful when a situation like this arises.

Episode #18 Talking Anger with Dr Russell Kolts.

Today’s episode is a chat with the wonderful Dr. Russell Kolts. Talking about anger, how we can deal with it both in a professional setting and in our personal lives and his tips on the work we can do behind the scenes to overcome triggers that may cause anger in us.

Episode #17 Showing up for Yourself – It’s Not Always Easy

In today’s episode I talk about the importance of showing up for yourself and tailoring your self-care to suit your own individual needs on an ongoing basis. I also take you through a guided meditationIn today’s episode I talk about the importance of showing up for yourself and tailoring your self-care to suit your own individual needs on an ongoing basis. I also take you through a guided meditation

Episode #15 Moral Injury with Dr Robyn Walser

In today’s episode, I chat to the lovely Robyn Walser who talks us through the Acceptance and Commitment Therapy work that she does, including co-authoring books and running workshops. As well as what moral injury is and how to navigate it.

Episode #13 Welcome Back

In this episode, I talk about how making small changes such as less time on our phones and social media can help us be more present to the more meaningful aspects of our lives.

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Episode #3 – Rest

In this episode, I invite you to take a moment and briefly check in with how you’re feeling. We talk about Rest – What it